Thirteen Reasons Why Your Marriage May Fail In 2013….
Good read. I did feel these were pretty common reasons for a marriage to fail, but it could fail any year not just 2013. He could repost this next year too. LOL. Made me think how many of the ways my marriage *could* fail this year. Can you find my big reasons per the article? Which numbers? If you know me well enough I bet you could. 😦 Sad.
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All good reasons for concern or even finality. The other thing they have in common? They can all be overcome as you still have respect for each other. If that’s gone, none of these are worth fixing.
very true!
Btw, glad you’re feeling better. Keep that momentum going 😉
Thank you.
Too bad a marriage license isn’t like a driver’s license….it lasts 8 years and you have a choice to renew it…or not. Maybe a yearly progress report in place so that when after getting bad ones year after year from not fixing what’s broken, won’t be a shock when it’s time to not renew it lol.
It would definitely take away a lot of the fear and guilt out of ending a bad marriage. Too many people stay in them for those two reasons, in my opinion. The partner who is screwing up (insert deal breaker here) knows what they are doing is a deal breaker and that there are consequences for that behavior. To repeatedly accept bad behavior enables more bad behavior. Round and round they go.
What a great idea!!!! LOL I have never thought of that!
I miss hearing from you. I know things have been tough, and I’m not trying to inspire you to blog if you just can’t. I know what it’s like to feel like nothing you can say really matters or changes anything. It just felt really important for me to say that I have noticed. And I pray. And just…hug.
I just feel like lately nothing I can say is anything new. My husband just three days ago took two of my pills that were hidden in my purse for emergency’s. We were doing really well. Right in the middle of me having the flu did I have to deal with that heartbreak again. How many times will I be stupid? It is what it is. And of course I miss HIM horribly. HE emails me all the time. Its killing me. I have started politely responding because I am lonely… I am keeping it VERY polite and not letting it go to anything inappropriate. EVEN though I know talking to him is inappropriate, I just can’t seem to let go of the happiest I’ve ever been, the most I’ve ever loved and the one thing I want more than anything else. Its pathetic and you all have to get tired of reading the same posts over and over worded differently. Because that is how I feel in life. Over it, the same old shit.
Yes, I totally understand. Sometimes writing about it is therapeutic, othertimes it’s easy to see that it’s the “same old” and feel even harder on yourself for not being further past this than you think you should.
BUT you are not stupid. You are broken. I understand why you are responding to HIM on email, and I don’t judge you for it. It makes sense.
Eventually a decision will have to be made. It’s this period, this not knowing, this suffering that is weighing you down. You are afraid to make the wrong decision? Maybe there is no wrong decision.
uggg. I want my husband to be well and healthy and I want to forget HIM because its not fair to THEM (him and his wife) even if they are getting divorced.
When you are too close to a painting, you can’t actually SEE what it is a picture of. As someone who is standing a few steps away, let me tell you what I can see.
1. You can’t change your husband.
2. You can’t heal your husband by waiting for him.
3. You will never forget HIM.
4. Life isn’t fair.
5. Fear causes us to live in limbo when we want to make everyone happy. Who’s happiness are you in control of?
It’s a beautiful painting.
You just need to make a decision.
I’m so thankful for you and your words. You have no idea how much.
((hug))
I really hope 2013 is the year you see clearly how to achieve happiness for yourself. It is about yourself, how can any of your children or close friends be happy if you are not? I know its hard to put the OM behind you, but you must, even while recognizing how much you loved him and maybe still do…just let the memory be part of you. Do not wait for your husband, I’ve said it more than once, he can compete for you if and when he’s ready and able, you have your life to live. There’s a whole beautiful world out there just dying for you to be part of it!
From where I stand, (which is at a great distance no doubt), you are beautiful and you will find everything you need if you let yourself be free.