How dare others judge me. They themselves are far from perfect. Maybe they are not having an affair but we all sin. I would have never had an affair. I was at a horrible low, horrible place and this man built me up. Gave me confidence. Made me feee wanted, desired, needed adored. Thing is he was in no better place in his marriage. I get so frustrated when people go off on me, and yes by blogging I set myself up for it but at the end of the day if your marriage was perfect your husband wouldn’t have fucked up either. Don’t judge me until you walk in my shoes. My husband was ABSENT for nearly two years PRIOR to my affair, and isn’t quite around all the time now… does that make my actions right? No, but it does make my actions MY actions and if I want to blog about how my actions ended up biting me in the ass then I can. Last time I checked that was my right. The only reason you are angry is your husband fucked around too. It is not the OW fault MORE than it is your husbands also. I respect your place and what happened to you, and you voicing your opinion but voice it on your blog not mine. I don’t go to your blog and post all over it justifying to you why I did what I did. INFACT I don’t even argue my point after your hurtful words on your blog… I think that is called respect. Don’t blog your hate on my blog. Its clear why your husband stepped out… you are a bitch. Do NOT tell me Gods plan for me. How dare you! God’s plan for me wasn’t my husband being absent. God knew my heart. God knew my loneliness. God knew how I would grow from this. OH BY THE WAY- Judging is a sin. What is God’s plan for you? Kind of calling the kettle black aren’t you?