You don’t know what goes on in anyone’s life but your own & when you mess with one part of a person’s life, you’re not messing with just that part. Unfortunately, you can’t be that precise & selective. When you mess with one part of a person’s life, you’re messing with their entire life. Everything… affects everything.
I do understand the impulse. The impulse to put your hand out and want someone to be there at the end of your reach. To want someone to be close to. To want to kiss, talk or touch even if it’s wrong. Almost always, you can’t control these feelings, even if they’re wrong, they’re still there. They’re always there.