So my girlfriend called me and asked if I wanted to go out for sushi with the kids. I said sure, (she is single and my husband is still out of town). I called my husband when I was done with work, and talked to him on the phone. He said he was watching a movie. He kept disappearing from the conversation, foucsed on what he was watching to the point I finally said, “I’m going to let you go because obvisoulsy you are into what you are watching.” (I was a little annoyed because I felt like I was working to hold his attention and I hadn’t talked to him all day). He insisted NO! and that he was sorry and that he would look away from the TV and talk to me… well that lasted all of 1 minute until he was laughing at the show again. I just said I was at the restraunt and let him go… annoyed. After dinner I took my daughter to her Aunt’s house and dropped her off, she was invited to a sleep over with her cousin. When I left there I tried to call him again. He talked to me for a few minutes and stated they were going to go down and check out the pool at the hotel, (which was fine, I am sure they are bored just sitting in their room for week two now…) and he said, and I quote, “I’m going to go do the pool/hot tub thing, and when we are done I will text and skype you! So I let him go, (at 8:30) at 9:30 I texted, “Hows the pool?” at 10 I texted, “STILL SWIMMING?” and attached a cute little icon thing from my iphone of a guy doing laps. At 10:15 I sent a icon of a fish and said “GEESH are you almost done?” At 11 I was pissed and decided to call. He answers and says hey babe! I said, “have you been ignoring me?” He said, “No, the phone has been in my room and we have all been in the other room watching Repo wars, we didn’t go to the pool.”
WELL THATS FUCKING NICE BEING THAT I’VE WAITED TO TALK TO YOU BECAUSE YOU SAID YOU’D CALL ME
FUCKING ASSHOLE I’VE BEEN WAITING, BECAUSE YOU SAID YOU WANTED TO SKYPE.
YOU ASS I WOULD HAVE GONE SHOPPING WITH MY FRIEND, BUT YOU SAID YOU’D CALL ME SO I DIDN’T GO.
I then said, “what is wrong with you? You sound funny, please tell me you are not high.” (MY HEART SANK).
He said “NO we just had a couple of beers.”
A couple of beers wouldn’t make you slur.
I am so pissed I told him I was mad and that I was tired and I was going to bed. I said I don’t care if you choose to have a drink, or whatever but don’t fucking tell me you are going to call me and then don’t. And just so you know your drinking leads to pills and depression and that fucks up your marriage.
WHY DOES THIS SHIT MAKE ME SO ANGRY AND IRRATATED?!?!
THIS SUCKS! BECAUSE NOW I HAVE NO ONE TO TALK TO. WHEN MY HUSBAND TREATED ME LIKE THIS OR I HAD FEARS LIKE THIS I HAD HIM TO TALK TO…. NOW I DON’T (WHICH IS WHAT I WANT) BUT FUCK IT IS LONELY WHEN I FEEL THE WAVE COMING… THE WAVE THAT THROWS ME OUT TO SEA WHERE I HAVE TO BUST MY ASS TO GET BACK TO THE SHORE BUT IT PULLS MY HUSBAND UNDER.
Thing is he didn’t do anything wrong but have a good time with the guys and he is with his boss, I just am terrified it will go back to the way it was… don’t tell me you are going to call me if you aren’t. Or call me and just say plans changed were all going to watch TV and hang out. FINE, have fun, thats great! Don’t leave me hanging and then answer after 11 trashed.
Being Her, (the other woman)... 
Listen regardless of the affair and the addiction problem you have. I would be very pissed of if that happened to me and when it happesn I get really angry with my husband and I will argue with him about it. the whole saying he will call and not call and leaving you hang in is not on, but it is part of a normal healthy marriage because it happens to all of us, so don’t be too hard on yourself and try to see that this is a good thing because is showing that this happens in marriage generally speaking of course but I hope you get what I mean.
Ugh, that’s no good. 😦 I know you don’t need me to tell you this, but you are totally justified in your feelings. What he did was rude, and in the end, you were just looking out for his well-being.
I know what you are feeling. It is not wrong for you to be upset. The main problem here is that he didn’t think about you. He didn’t consider your feelings. He didn’t call back to tell you what was going on or that his plans changed. He started using a mind-altering substance and got out of control (if his speech was slurred it was more than just a couple of beers). He forgot about his promise to you. No matter how small or “insignificant” someone else might think that is, the bigger issue is the lack of consideration. It’s a scary place to be, and I understand your anger for sure.
You have the right to be upset.
I’m playing a little catch up but I remember when he came back he poured out the wine you had. Now he’s drinking beers and not calling. My mind would be racing and I agree that you have every right to be upset. When you say you will call. You have to folllow through with it. That goes for everyone. A text might have been shitty but better than nothing. I hope he understands and doesn’t leave you hanging. I so glad you told him how upsetting it is to be stood up.