Nothing is new. My life is still insanely busy. I can barely keep up. Being a mom to many and running your own business can be a lot. So much has changed. My three oldest kids are living on their own, two of which are married with babies!! :0) Leaving my younger four still living at home. Between work, life, and day to day to do list’s I attend their sports. Volleyball. Softball. Rugby. Tennis. Lacrosse. I. AM. SO. TIRED. And yes that baby of mine is now a week away from being two. I don’t know if she is worse than all my others or if being 41 and having a two year old is what makes it harder. All I know is she is everything I deserve when looking at the likeliness of Karma being a real thing. Holy shit. Seriously. I love her though. From her toes to the tips of her curly wild hair.
I know I know… the above part isn’t what you are wanting to read. You want to know about HIM. You guys are so faithful in your emails. I try and reply I swear. About your emails and my replies, I need to make a post on that! Talk about some of your complex stories! Wow! You guys email me and I have to read your emails three and four times in complete disbelief and speechlessness when you ask me to reply with advice. UMMMMM I don’t know what to do when your husband walks in on you showing your new bra to your boyfriend who happens to be his cousin and you all end up in jail, after which you end up having an affair with the District Attorney! I’m just kidding-that isn’t really an email that I received, however they are some crazy situations!
Okay I’m rambling. Maybe I’m trying to avoid crying. Nothing is different. I know that bores you and that isn’t what you want to read.
I think last I mentioned they were talking about moving out of state. Well he found a job that really wants him. His wife is on again and off again in wanting him to take it. I totally get it and her feelings. Everything she knows is here. Their kids are all in school here with family here. It, (I imagine), is VERY hard to up and leave everything for a job that is in another state where you know nothing or anyone. But the offer they gave him was amazing. The best job offer he has ever had. Of course he says she is torn for different reasons, (which as a wife and mother I COMPLETELY get). She is on the fence about moving her children. Taking them out of their schools and that state that is the only state they have known. He said he’d go out first and find a place and get situated and let them finish school and move them out there in May. One day she is for it, and the next she is against it. And she swings. Daily. He says he understands her basic feelings of hesitation.
The thing is I am super proud of him. He always tries to better himself. Work hard at work and get things done. Teach. Take classes to better himself and when he feels stuck or like there is no movement at the job he is at he actively looks for new work and he has moved up in income and titles like you are supposed to strive to do. I love that about him. I fail to see that with my husband. He would stay stagnant forever if he was comfortable. That drives me crazy. Day to day. Easy come easy go. Well that works for Jimmy Buffet but for the rest of us….. it gets flipping old.
As you can imagine this has caused a storm of emotions in me. Excited for him. Proud of him. Happy for him. He deserves this. He really, really does. Regardless of his actions with me, he has worked very hard in life and truly deserves this job. HOWEVER. In telling him how very proud of him I am and how excited I am for him, my heart seriously feels like it is being ripped out of my body. Now some of you get it. You’ve been here and walked in these shoes and have had to say goodbye or walk away. Then, some of you are laughing and telling your computer screens, “serves you right you stupid B….” we’ve been through this before. I was the woman that judged others. Pointed my fingers and said, “OH I WOULD NEVER EVER HAVE AN AFFAIR”…. until you do. So simmer down finger pointer. The comments don’t affect me anymore. Because I was that commenter.
Yes, I’m sad. Yes, I’m jealous. Yes, I keep crying. Thing is nothing really will change. We rarely see each other now, yet we talk every single day. Talking to him every single day isn’t going to change. That will continue. But knowing he isn’t 15 minutes away and that he is several states away is sad. However lets be honest, I won’t dread running into them at a sporting event or restaurant anymore! :0) However, I won’t be running into just him in some beautiful hotel room on the 9th floor overlooking the snow capped mountains either. Of course this is just the icing on the emotional cake. There have been a ton of conversations, and a ton of tears and evil hateful jealousy that wishes she’d tell him to go and to take his kids with him because she still wants a divorce approximately every eight weeks. But then that is that green in me. At the end of the day he isn’t mine.
Oh and my husband…. same shit, different day.
Love to you all. Thank you all for still being here.
-her
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